Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed: Why Saying What You Need Matters Now More Than Ever

Lately I’ve been spending more time at home, and with that came the itch to switch things up. Redesign, rearrange, refresh. You know the feeling!

Last Friday, it hit hard, a full-on must paint now primal urge. A continuation of the Marie Kondo wave I’ve been riding. So I jotted it down on my to-do list: “Buy paint, brushes, spackle, tape…” knowing full well that the “buy” part might have to wait for my next paycheck.

Later that day, I went to my Aunt’s house for a swim. 🏊‍♀️ While chatting, I casually mentioned my home makeover plans, and without skipping a beat she said, “Oh, we’ve got a whole gallon and a half of unused blue paint from Daniel’s room last year—probably just needs a good shake.” 💡 DING DING DING

We sifted through the garage, and she sent me home with everything: paint, brushes, tape, spackle, drop cloth, even tools I didn’t realize I needed.

Perfect! My grand design plans had some wheels now!

The next day, I went to a sound meditation at Official Ritual (where I also teach), and afterward over tea, a new friend (perfect stranger) mentioned that they “just needed to get a sewing machine.”

Another lightbulb moment 💡

I have a sewing machine sitting in my trunk, which was on its way to Goodwill so I offered it up.

After the initial shock and gratitude, they responded “Closed mouths don’t get fed.”

That line hit me.

It reminded me how powerful it is just to say what we need out loud. Not even asking for anything, just mentioning it can open doors.

If we really want to build community and move away from systems rooted in overconsumption and capitalism, this is how we begin.

We share. We speak. We offer what we have, and we receive what others are ready to give.

We don’t have to do it alone because we were never meant to.

My homework for you this week: 📝 Say the thing out loud. Write to me, or tell a friend, or tell a stranger. Use your voice in the way it was intended: to connect.

I’m in your web 🕸🕷, and your corner, and your orbit 🪐.

Don’t be shy,
Lindsay