How to be a Better Friend

Yesterday, I went to The Class with my friend Katie. She invited me because it was her dad, Frank’s, birthday in heaven. 💚☘️

Over the years, she’s learned that moving her body, sweating, crying, and screaming with strangers, helps her move through these big anniversary dates. And so without fail, she’s there, on Monday morning on her mat. 

Being alongside her yesterday, (and crying my own tears in the back row) I was reminded of one of the most important lessons she’s taught me: how to show up as a friend. 🫂

Katie has a gift for it. 

Maybe it comes from the way her grief has shaped her, or maybe she’s just naturally wired that way, but she never fails to remember the details that matter. 

She’ll text me before a doctor’s appointment I’ve been stressed about 😥, or cheer me on before a big event. She remembers birthdays, milestones, and even the small moments I’ve shared in passing. Cause when she listens, she really listens.

And what’s even more inspiring is how she shares openly about her own big dates. 

She lets me know when she might be feeling off because an anniversary is coming up, or when she’s needing a little extra care. By letting me in, she gives me the chance to show up for her too. 💞

I’ve been so changed by the way she loves, that I’ve started showing up for my friends better, too. 

Now when a friend tells me something important, whether it’s a scary appointment, a family anniversary, or just a day they’re feeling nervous about, I make a note in my calendar. 🗓

That little action means I won’t forget, and it gives me the chance to send a message, offer encouragement, or show up to their favorite workout class. 

It’s such a simple practice, but it’s deepened my friendships in ways I didn’t expect. 

We might not all have a Katie in our lives, but that doesn’t mean we can’t be that friend for someone else. ❤️‍🔥

Maybe this week it starts with listening a little more closely, writing something down, and following up with a message or a gesture that says: I’m here for you.

Because at the end of the day, friendship isn’t about grand gestures, it’s about the small, consistent ways we show up. 🌻

And as long as we keep trying, I know our love can change the world.